When a Bad Relationship Damages Your Self-Esteem

Getting involved in a bad relationship is something that a lot of people go through at one time or another. Sometimes, though, people have to endure mental abuse from their partners, which can have a negative effect on them that lasts a lifetime.

It can be tough for you to bounce back from the mental abuse you had to endure and your self-esteem suffers greatly because of it.  The mental abuse you were put through is usually an attack by your partner to make you feel worthless and insecure.

The partner does it to gain control and boost his or her own ego (yes, women can be abusive, too). They want you to have low self-esteem so you won’t think for yourself. Getting out of a relationship like that is the first step you need to take in order to save your own sanity.

There are other things you’ll need to do to bounce back from the mental abuse. It’s important to stay active. Get out and do things with your family and friends, because an abuser loves to alienate you from your loved ones.

Keep your mind focused on other things so that you don’t isolate yourself at home and become dependent on the negative person who’s feeding into your self-esteem issues.  Call up friends, read uplifting books or concentrate on a project like redecorating your house.

Do whatever it takes to keep you going. If you have a job, continue to work and take note of your goals and achievements. If you don’t have a job, look for one. Working can get your mind off of your problems and give you the necessary affirmation that you can do whatever you put your mind to – and that you’re not worthless.

Avoid jumping into other relationships until you’re fully healed emotionally. You’re more likely to fall for other partners who are just like your ex. You don’t want to get into the same situation as before and repeat the cycle of abuse.

Don’t waste time on thoughts of your ex – whether it’s negative or otherwise. Some people make the mistake of spending a lot of time with thoughts of how much they hate their former partner or how they wish they could get revenge. 

Release the anger and focus on what’s important – you!  It’s time to move forward with your life. Don’t be afraid to seek some professional help. A professional can help you work through your feelings and help you build your self-esteem back up. Don’t let a bad relationship break your spirit.