How to Control Codependency

Some great souls always think for the benefit of others and keep other’s desires before their own. Such people who think a lot about other’s interests and desires are regarded as codependent.

Codependence is good to a limit which does not hurt your own interests and feelings. Almost everyone wishes to be loved by others. For other’s love and positive interest people do a lot of things but a codependent overdo things for others and think only about others. Such people feel that others are incomplete without them and will not be able to work perfectly if they are not there for help. This mind set sometimes irritates and even spoil people.

Person who feels that others will not be able to manage their lives without them are obviously nice and pure souls but such people must understand that everybody has a life and everybody is been gifted with ability to manage their own life. For a person who is codependent must learn to control such feelings. This is because not every time people will understand your gesture and things might turn upside down. For preventing anything wrong from taking place you have to learn how to control codependence. All those people who are codependent usually never accept what people offer them because they don’t feel they are worth their gesture. They just believe in giving and never expect and accept in return.

Codependent people develop such behaviors because they are under confident with low self esteem. Codependence is not easy. Not anyone can develop such behaviors. Giving all the time is not easy and that to when you do not want anything in return. Such people are of great value but they need to understand that they also are valuable and they should always be interdependent rather than being codependent. Interdependency is acceptable because both the persons of a relation are doing something for each other. This maintains balance and equality in a relation. But in codependency this balance never exists because the one who is doing keeps doing it and the other one does not bother to return back and also the giver is not accepting anything in return.