Rapport is simply appearing to another person’s unconscious mind that the two of you are alike. When you’re properly in rapport with another person, they naturally think “I don’t know why, but I really like you!”
People who share like interests naturally find themselves gaining rapport with each other. The best thing you can do to establish rapport is to imagine you can achieve rapport with people easily. This will prove to be a good first step.
Now, when people are in a rapport, they more than likely share the following similarities:
• They breathe together at the same rate
• Their postures match
• They speak at the same pace, tone and pitch
• They use the same gestures
Most of the time, this is all done outside both parties conscious awareness. Since I’m a person who likes to get to know people on a genuine level, I gain rapport quickly with an individual. You can do the same thing.
When you first start communicating with a person, answer in your own mind a very important question and trust the answers that come to you. Ask “What is going on inside the person? What must they be thinking, feeling, imagining?”
And be selective about what you’re thinking…
Even thoughts create energy and it’s been shown that people can “pick up” on your thoughts about them. For example: if you’re angry, a person’s unconscious mind can detect it and may mistake you being angry with them whether your anger is towards them or not.
So it’s very important what you have running through your brain when you’re gaining rapport with others and even during the entire conversation. It only takes one wrong attitude or thought about a person that can break your rapport. Build rapport through conversational hypnosis.