How can we inspire people, and ourselves, to be self-motivated
When you feel empowered, you are self motivated, you can achieve your potential. How can you know if you or someone else feel empowered? Simply ask these 3 questions:
- Can you do it?
- Will it work?
- Is it worthy?
If you responded ‘yes’ to all these 3 questions, you feel confident. You are more likely to be self-motivated.
Be a success seeker, rather than a failure avoider. To seek success and to avoid failure are two opposing motives.
Success seeker:
- Motivated by tasks with a high complexity level
- Failure helps increase motivation
- Self-motivated learners
- They are high in motive for success and low in fear of failure
- Get motivated by incremental targets leading to improvement
Failure avoider:
- Prefer easier tasks
- Less motivated after a setback
- They are low in motive for success and high in fear of failure
- Set targets they can achieve, so keep their self-image intact, but they don’t improve their skills
When you perceive choice, you perceive motivation.
Motivation is a fundamental part of learning. It is not, of course, the unique factor you need in order to learning to occur, but without motivation, it is very difficult to learn anything. Success and failure are closely related. Success always starts with failure; failure is good, necessary, for success. Because failure is our life’s greater teacher. Many people say “failure is not an option”, but this is not true. Failure is an option and it has to be like that. We learn from our mistakes, for a reason. You can be afraid of failure, but this is what it makes you to break through. You fail, then you try the next thing, again and again. You don’t get discouraged, because it is just part of the process. Some people do not call them “mistakes”, but “life lessons”. It is important that you learn how to deal with drama. Learn from that, move forward, don’t do it again, you have learned and have grown as a person. No regrets, just life lessons.
On the other hand, if you have been told since you were a kid that failure is not a option, guess what happens? You develop a tremendous fear of failing. Fortunately, there are great ways to deal with fear of failure.